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2016-09-28 06:38:02 PM teaves thats sad and crazy and its not for her its for the residents
2016-09-28 06:38:14 PM edithl thankfully she will be retiring soon , i hope
2016-09-28 06:38:23 PM tammymb very self-centered!
2016-09-28 06:38:29 PM tvs320 So many of the high schools require volunteer hours now for graduation.
2016-09-28 06:38:40 PM teaves thats selfish the residents would enjoy the 1:1
2016-09-28 06:38:44 PM robina1 i have an alz. who wanders, she is in constant motion, and only says help, it is have to do a one on one , does anyone have any suggestions
2016-09-28 06:38:44 PM auazuibke0114 I know... that's selfish
2016-09-28 06:38:46 PM cchase volunteers aren't paid because they are priceless
2016-09-28 06:39:08 PM saraheltman Walk and talk.
2016-09-28 06:39:10 PM kimberly1 I have a lady just like that robina1 too.
2016-09-28 06:39:11 PM teaves exactly
2016-09-28 06:39:14 PM edithl i have told her , and she tells me everything she does is for the residents, oh well enough bout that
2016-09-28 06:39:22 PM jackiebl our high school volunteers are not doing that well-they dont like the fact that they cant have their phones attached to them! lol
2016-09-28 06:39:29 PM cchase saying help is a way to really say that I am affraid
2016-09-28 06:39:31 PM angelamscott volunteers tend to stay on the AL side more and they want you to bring the Memory care to them. I think they are a little fearful, because they don't understand the disease
2016-09-28 06:39:33 PM tvs320 I find that the resdients that say help want your attention. Sit with her and hold her hand. Or talk with her.
2016-09-28 06:39:39 PM cchase like I want to go home
2016-09-28 06:39:47 PM saraheltman Agreed
2016-09-28 06:39:54 PM cchase pacing help to dissapate anxiety
2016-09-28 06:40:06 PM auazuibke0114 They say Help Help a lot
2016-09-28 06:40:08 PM cchase it is the bodies why to shake it out
2016-09-28 06:40:17 PM angelamscott I have taken some on a field trip
2016-09-28 06:40:23 PM cchase yup they do honey they certainly do
2016-09-28 06:40:28 PM cchase say help
2016-09-28 06:40:41 PM tvs320 I did too!!! Out to lunch. Not one help the entire time.
2016-09-28 06:40:42 PM angelamscott Yelling
2016-09-28 06:40:43 PM saraheltman Yes, our resident's say help a lot too, and when I come to say what's wrong, they say i dont know.
2016-09-28 06:40:47 PM cchase same thing in the wild animal kingdom
2016-09-28 06:40:47 PM saraheltman I feel so bad.
2016-09-28 06:40:57 PM cchase animals shake it out after a trauma
2016-09-28 06:40:59 PM angelamscott Lol
2016-09-28 06:41:03 PM auazuibke0114 I always help them
2016-09-28 06:41:25 PM cchase they can't tell you what help they need
2016-09-28 06:41:39 PM angelamscott celeste what about the sex drive? Man!
2016-09-28 06:41:41 PM cchase but they can use those words to tell you they are affreaid
2016-09-28 06:41:46 PM cchase affraid
2016-09-28 06:41:51 PM auazuibke0114 Yes
2016-09-28 06:41:52 PM saraheltman I know that, and that's why it's so hard, but when they see me, they tend to forget what they were worried about.
2016-09-28 06:42:02 PM cchase sex - unfiltered
2016-09-28 06:42:10 PM cchase yes - common
2016-09-28 06:42:11 PM kimberly1 We are for them!
2016-09-28 06:42:15 PM teaves whatttttt
2016-09-28 06:42:21 PM teaves what do you mean sex drive
2016-09-28 06:42:37 PM cchase good sarah you are giving them what they need..good for you
2016-09-28 06:42:43 PM angelamscott still able to participate
2016-09-28 06:43:22 PM cchase many a case study has been done on whether they have the inherent right to pursue sex
2016-09-28 06:43:31 PM teaves wow
2016-09-28 06:43:42 PM saraheltman Thank you, I really love my job as an activity assistant, I love all of the resident's and I appreciate this opportunity to learn more and to work my way up to become an activity director.
2016-09-28 06:43:50 PM cchase lots of families would dissagree
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2016-09-28 06:44:10 PM angelamscott that is the issue.
2016-09-28 06:44:13 PM tvs320 I have had residents that fooled around but there is a fine line to be crossed. Be careful with this.
2016-09-28 06:44:29 PM teaves again wow
2016-09-28 06:44:43 PM saraheltman A lot of the resident's in personal care are swingers. Fun fact.
2016-09-28 06:44:55 PM teaves uh
2016-09-28 06:44:57 PM robina1 yikes
2016-09-28 06:45:03 PM teaves whew
2016-09-28 06:45:03 PM tvs320 The POA needed to be contacted for both parties. And they had to give concent. The state ended up coming to investigate.
2016-09-28 06:45:16 PM jackiebl i think if it's to consenting adults thats oriented then they have the right
2016-09-28 06:45:33 PM saraheltman YES! Oriented is the main thing.
2016-09-28 06:46:01 PM jackiebl there's so may rules in nh!
2016-09-28 06:46:17 PM tvs320 The question was can two alzheimers residents give concent? Are they aware enough? They want the feeling... but do they know who they are with?
2016-09-28 06:46:21 PM auazuibke0114 Also in Tx
2016-09-28 06:46:22 PM angelamscott I engage them in more activities
2016-09-28 06:46:31 PM kimberly1 Activities is so key
2016-09-28 06:46:47 PM jackiebl no the alz pts can not give consent
2016-09-28 06:46:52 PM auazuibke0114 Yes
2016-09-28 06:46:57 PM saraheltman I feel like if ALZ resident wants to be with their spouse it could be okay.
2016-09-28 06:47:20 PM edithl yes with their spouse i agree
2016-09-28 06:47:26 PM kimberly1 Yes
2016-09-28 06:47:28 PM auazuibke0114 Yes Sarah
2016-09-28 06:47:34 PM angelamscott I've taken activites for granted until now. I see how it can truly make a difference
2016-09-28 06:47:35 PM jackiebl yes i think if its the spouse it should be ok-as long as both agree
2016-09-28 06:47:49 PM cchase not sure of the legal aspect of that
2016-09-28 06:48:06 PM saraheltman Yeah...it may vary from state to state
2016-09-28 06:48:09 PM jackiebl this is touchy water to tread lol
2016-09-28 06:48:18 PM auazuibke0114 Some usually say take me home to my spouse and kids
2016-09-28 06:48:19 PM teaves yes it is
2016-09-28 06:48:39 PM cchase it is making headlines
2016-09-28 06:49:11 PM edithl we have a couple that just moved in our facility , they sleep in the same room seperatebed, but at night the door i closed for them, they do not have Alzheimr's
2016-09-28 06:49:14 PM angelamscott Yes we need to be aware that it exist
2016-09-28 06:49:27 PM cchase not sure if it was my family that I would be gun ho
2016-09-28 06:49:29 PM kimberly1 Yes
2016-09-28 06:49:38 PM teaves exactly
2016-09-28 06:49:43 PM jackiebl yes
2016-09-28 06:49:53 PM aturner1026 activities do make a difference... i've noticed that activities are the only thing some residents have to look forward to (besides meals) and it is heartbreaking at times. you have to help make the best of their time in THEIR home.
2016-09-28 06:49:57 PM cchase hard
2016-09-28 06:50:14 PM cchase okay so lets see
2016-09-28 06:50:18 PM angelamscott It bothers me. I wish I had a solution
2016-09-28 06:50:19 PM teaves yess aturner1026
2016-09-28 06:50:28 PM cchase you are worried about something and yu think about it all the time
2016-09-28 06:50:30 PM edithl exactly, just hoped the rest of the staff at my place saw it that way
2016-09-28 06:50:38 PM teaves especailly for those who don't have visitors
2016-09-28 06:50:45 PM angelamscott yes
2016-09-28 06:50:47 PM cchase a friend shows up and take you out to do something fun
2016-09-28 06:50:56 PM cchase you forget even just for a bit
2016-09-28 06:51:16 PM jackiebl aturner that is what hit me too. so many underestimate activities but the residents think we are the most important-when we are not here then they are the most affected
2016-09-28 06:51:18 PM angelamscott you saying that is enough
2016-09-28 06:51:27 PM saraheltman My one 104 year old resident says that she wants her mom, but obviously I can't use logic, so I usually tell her that if I see her mom that I'll let her know you were looking for her. Is that the right response even if it calmed her down?
2016-09-28 06:52:02 PM jackiebl if a nurse calls in then someone else can pass her pills-but no one else can take over our role in the res. hearts
2016-09-28 06:52:05 PM kimberly1 I have looking out the window for her mother too.
2016-09-28 06:52:05 PM edithl i believe it is , but its only me , i do the same thing
2016-09-28 06:52:07 PM cchase nice sarah
2016-09-28 06:52:17 PM cchase we call that therapeutic fibblets
2016-09-28 06:52:26 PM cchase :P
2016-09-28 06:52:27 PM aturner1026 exactly, jackiebl.
2016-09-28 06:52:34 PM edithl lol
2016-09-28 06:52:36 PM robina1 lol
2016-09-28 06:52:38 PM cchase keeps them calm
2016-09-28 06:52:42 PM auazuibke0114 Yes sarah
2016-09-28 06:52:44 PM edithl yes it does
2016-09-28 06:52:46 PM aturner1026 it does
2016-09-28 06:52:56 PM angelamscott :)
2016-09-28 06:53:00 PM sueg Why do they remember their childhood? Is that in a part of the brain that ALZ. hits last?
2016-09-28 06:53:02 PM edithl sometimes makes my head spin lol
2016-09-28 06:53:14 PM cchase therapeutic fibblets are very permissable and should be used often
2016-09-28 06:53:19 PM saraheltman I feel bad fibbing sometimes, but I've gotten so good at it over the years with these kinds of situatoins.
2016-09-28 06:53:27 PM cchase good question sue
2016-09-28 06:53:31 PM edithl i know!
2016-09-28 06:53:35 PM tammymb my mom asked for her mother all the time and she died many years ago
2016-09-28 06:53:51 PM cchase what was filed in the brain before the disease sets in can be recalled
2016-09-28 06:53:53 PM jackiebl hahaha if the fibs are used to spare feelings then i think its ok
2016-09-28 06:54:05 PM cchase thus, they can live in the memories of yesterday
2016-09-28 06:54:10 PM kimberly1 That is why so important to do physical exercises, and cognitive exerrcises.
2016-09-28 06:54:18 PM sueg thank you
2016-09-28 06:54:26 PM cchase but new memories cannot be filed in the brain because the disease now prevents it
2016-09-28 06:54:43 PM saraheltman So long term is all they have?
2016-09-28 06:54:45 PM tvs320 good information.
2016-09-28 06:54:50 PM auazuibke0114 Exercise helps a lot
2016-09-28 06:55:02 PM tvs320 Gets oxygen to the brain
2016-09-28 06:55:05 PM cchase yup at least for a bit of time..at some point they lose that too
2016-09-28 06:55:11 PM tammymb my residents do very well with spelling bees
2016-09-28 06:55:25 PM teaves yes a lot of the brain games we do they are really good at it
2016-09-28 06:55:34 PM cchase spelling bess awesome
2016-09-28 06:55:44 PM edithl cchase do you think it is wrong to have small puzzles like the ones that you teach small children the alphabet, is it wrong to have the last stage residents play with them as you talk with them and see what they can remember?
2016-09-28 06:55:45 PM angelamscott They will cling to someone who's nice to them
2016-09-28 06:55:45 PM teaves and spelling backwards
2016-09-28 06:55:47 PM cchase trivia is super
2016-09-28 06:56:02 PM kimberly1 items in order
2016-09-28 06:56:04 PM teaves especially during their time
2016-09-28 06:56:14 PM tvs320 I think only a few of my residents would benifit from a spelling bee, The dementia level is so high
2016-09-28 06:56:25 PM auazuibke0114 Yes these games help
2016-09-28 06:56:28 PM saraheltman Yes! Residents who I thought were kinda lost would do adaptive spelling bees very well!
2016-09-28 06:56:30 PM cchase edith - that is simply therapeutic
2016-09-28 06:56:35 PM cchase good going
2016-09-28 06:56:50 PM angelamscott we have fun with "do you remember"
2016-09-28 06:57:01 PM edithl well i bought a bunch of them and now my AD does not let me use them
2016-09-28 06:57:28 PM saraheltman My residents love trivia, almost as much as bingo
2016-09-28 06:57:28 PM cchase go with care with do you remember...some get fustrated if they cannot remember..but those that do love it
2016-09-28 06:57:29 PM edithl she says it is to childish and they will feel like children
2016-09-28 06:57:59 PM cchase tell her that its about visual perception
2016-09-28 06:58:02 PM saraheltman I say whatever they positively respond to.
2016-09-28 06:58:04 PM tammymb they love to talk of the past like their sibilings, dating, their fun days of school their past
2016-09-28 06:58:24 PM teaves and what they used to do for a living
2016-09-28 06:58:31 PM cchase telal her that it is about racial dimensions
2016-09-28 06:58:38 PM angelamscott True. I tell them I don't remember either and we all laugh
2016-09-28 06:58:53 PM edithl thanks cchase
2016-09-28 06:59:02 PM auazuibke0114 Yes they love talking about their first love
2016-09-28 06:59:04 PM robina1 we did a did you know odd facts trivia the other day, like how many teeth does a mosiqutoe have
2016-09-28 06:59:08 PM cchase tell her that the fast she gets at putting the puzzel together the better she will be.. healthier
2016-09-28 06:59:20 PM kimberly1 Yes
2016-09-28 06:59:51 PM cchase how about don't cry over spilled milk
2016-09-28 07:00:01 PM cchase still waters run ------- deep
2016-09-28 07:00:06 PM cchase they know those
2016-09-28 07:00:17 PM edithl yes they do and they love them
2016-09-28 07:00:19 PM saraheltman Old sayings, they get so well!!! This was very helpful, thank you very much!
2016-09-28 07:00:20 PM teaves yes the american proverbs
2016-09-28 07:00:26 PM teaves they love those
2016-09-28 07:00:28 PM cchase okay folks one hour has pasted any other comments or questions??
2016-09-28 07:00:34 PM angelamscott That's what i was talking about
2016-09-28 07:00:47 PM angelamscott That was quick
2016-09-28 07:00:49 PM auazuibke0114 they remember that
2016-09-28 07:00:51 PM kimberly1 Thanks so much great chatting on ALZ.
2016-09-28 07:01:01 PM cchase I will do adult day chat next wed... do attend.
2016-09-28 07:01:02 PM tvs320 no but thanks for the help!!!
2016-09-28 07:01:03 PM saraheltman Thank you! I learned a lot.
2016-09-28 07:01:05 PM tammymb and some know the words to alot of old hymns but do not remember their names!
2016-09-28 07:01:09 PM teaves will do
2016-09-28 07:01:13 PM sueg Hats off to all of you working with Alz. you have a very hard job
2016-09-28 07:01:14 PM cchase have you learned something??
2016-09-28 07:01:15 PM saraheltman 8pm?
2016-09-28 07:01:15 PM kimberly1 Great!
2016-09-28 07:01:15 PM aturner1026 proverbs are a good idea. that'd be a good topic for trivia
2016-09-28 07:01:23 PM tvs320 Ok see you then.
2016-09-28 07:01:27 PM teaves ummmmm is that a trick question
2016-09-28 07:01:30 PM cchase yup 8pm eastern std time
2016-09-28 07:01:36 PM auazuibke0114 Ok thanks so much and goodnight cchase
2016-09-28 07:01:37 PM teaves i always learn something from these chats
2016-09-28 07:01:41 PM aturner1026 me too
2016-09-28 07:01:45 PM angelamscott thanks. very helpful.
2016-09-28 07:01:48 PM sueg yes
2016-09-28 07:01:51 PM cchase take care and God Bless you for what you do
2016-09-28 07:01:54 PM robina1 wow, thanks alot, see you next wednesday
2016-09-28 07:01:57 PM saraheltman Thanks again, I feel validated in my work.
2016-09-28 07:02:00 PM aturner1026 thank you!!
2016-09-28 07:02:03 PM kimberly1 You too, Celeste!
2016-09-28 07:02:08 PM cchase (})
2016-09-28 07:02:09 PM angelamscott good night to you all
2016-09-28 07:02:12 PM teaves thanx and you too, goodnight everyone
2016-09-28 07:02:12 PM auazuibke0114 Yes, I learned. Thanks
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2016-09-28 07:02:19 PM edithl Good night everyone! have a blessed week!:)
2016-09-28 07:02:19 PM tammymb thank you!
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2016-09-28 07:02:28 PM saraheltman Goodnight, God bless!
2016-09-28 07:02:32 PM aturner1026 (v)
2016-09-28 07:02:36 PM tvs320 Night
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2016-09-28 07:03:05 PM auazuibke0114 Great ideas. Thanks a lot
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