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2020-11-12 07:42:00 PM cchase To fully understand the meaning behind the words, you must focus on the intent and seek purposeful understanding of its meaning. All this needs to be first and foremost during the interaction and your main focus during every conversational exchange with older adults.
2020-11-12 07:42:07 PM yvettemlopez loosing words that would suck
2020-11-12 07:42:20 PM byefelicia a little empathy could go a long way
2020-11-12 07:42:35 PM michelled Sure if they are tell you something inportant to them and you are not listening they will feel uninportant.
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2020-11-12 07:43:06 PM melveniag yes they do
2020-11-12 07:43:17 PM rdonatien enter the chat room
2020-11-12 07:43:19 PM lboffeli They also noticed when you are actively listening
2020-11-12 07:43:33 PM melveniag yes
2020-11-12 07:43:36 PM cchase ever do that gag when someone asks how are you doing - and you say good, my dog ran away, the cat died and they oh that's wonderul
2020-11-12 07:43:36 PM yvettemlopez ye
2020-11-12 07:43:41 PM lboffeli or when you are not listening and giving them your full attention
2020-11-12 07:43:42 PM byefelicia another thing my granny used to say is "look at me when I'm speaking to you"
2020-11-12 07:43:44 PM rpennino They won't remember what you said to them always but how you make them feel
2020-11-12 07:43:47 PM michelled no
2020-11-12 07:44:18 PM cchase very good rpennino
2020-11-12 07:44:26 PM lhalfacre I always sit at their level, and when they are having trouble getting their words out I tend to rub his or her arm and tell them take your time
2020-11-12 07:44:31 PM byefelicia very tru rpennino and they will remember it
2020-11-12 07:44:32 PM cchase that will remember how you made them feel- always
2020-11-12 07:45:03 PM cchase The experts call this “active listening”, and there are a few different components:
2020-11-12 07:45:16 PM cchase • Pay attention. When someone is talking to you, look at them. Notice their eye contact and body language. Take in their tone of voice as well as what they are actually saying. Really listen.
2020-11-12 07:45:16 PM lboffeli Absolutely they will!
2020-11-12 07:45:31 PM cchase • Listen with your body. Turn toward the person who is talking, lean in, and make them feel listened to because you really are listening. Make eye contact, smile, nod, and make leading noises (“Uh-huh”, “Really?”, “Go on”, etc.) when appropriate.
2020-11-12 07:45:34 PM desiraes when you make them feel great you have made their day
2020-11-12 07:45:35 PM byefelicia also provide feedback on what was said by the resident
2020-11-12 07:45:52 PM cchase • Don’t interrupt. The best way to make someone feel like they are not being heard is to interrupt or talk on top of them. Listen fully and wait until they are done to ask questions or add your thoughts
2020-11-12 07:46:00 PM desiraes body language is a must
2020-11-12 07:46:12 PM desiraes you can tell alot by someones body language
2020-11-12 07:46:15 PM cchase • Repeat what they said. Don’t just say what you were planning to say. Show that you have heard what they said by repeating back to them a summary of what you heard when appropriate before adding your own opinions.
2020-11-12 07:46:15 PM lboffeli Body Language is very key!
2020-11-12 07:46:32 PM yvettemlopez yes
2020-11-12 07:46:42 PM lhalfacre absolutely
2020-11-12 07:46:44 PM desiraes I find it disrespectful interrupting
2020-11-12 07:46:55 PM lboffeli yes! Actively listen just as you would want anyone to listen to you1
2020-11-12 07:46:56 PM michelled right
2020-11-12 07:46:57 PM lboffeli you1
2020-11-12 07:46:58 PM lboffeli you!
2020-11-12 07:47:07 PM byefelicia as you istening, you need to thoroughly absorb, understand, respond, and retain what is being said
2020-11-12 07:47:12 PM cchase when you repeat what they have said - it helps them to stay on track with their thoughts as well
2020-11-12 07:47:16 PM rpennino I was just thinking that today when I was consistently interrupted by another employee, what was the point of being in that conversation if I couldn't say anything!!
2020-11-12 07:47:17 PM desiraes right the golden rule treat others the way you want to be treated
2020-11-12 07:47:29 PM cchase • Respond to what they said. Be honest and respectful in your responses, and remember to talk — and listen — in the ways that you would want to be talked or listened to.
2020-11-12 07:47:42 PM lboffeli YES!
2020-11-12 07:47:53 PM yvettemlopez yes
2020-11-12 07:47:56 PM desiraes yes
2020-11-12 07:48:00 PM melveniag yes
2020-11-12 07:48:01 PM desiraes exactly
2020-11-12 07:48:02 PM rpennino I like that about repeating because it helps them stay on track too!!
2020-11-12 07:48:14 PM desiraes yes it does so true
2020-11-12 07:48:18 PM cchase here are the seven must do for effective communications
2020-11-12 07:48:21 PM cchase ready?
2020-11-12 07:48:27 PM melveniag yes
2020-11-12 07:48:28 PM rdonatien respond with confirmation, ask for confirnation of what they are saying of have said.
2020-11-12 07:48:32 PM lboffeli Yes and helps them follow to carry on
2020-11-12 07:48:32 PM lboffeli yes ready!
2020-11-12 07:48:33 PM michelled yes
2020-11-12 07:48:37 PM rpennino ready!
2020-11-12 07:48:39 PM yvettemlopez yes
2020-11-12 07:48:42 PM desiraes yes
2020-11-12 07:48:42 PM cchase 1. Allow extra time for older patients.2. Minimize visual and auditory distractions.3. Sit face to face with the patient.
2020-11-12 07:48:50 PM rdonatien Mirror their words, and wait for confirmation
2020-11-12 07:48:55 PM byefelicia agree
2020-11-12 07:48:55 PM cchase 4. Don't underestimate the power of eye contact.5. Listen without interrupting the patient.
2020-11-12 07:49:07 PM cchase 6. Speak slowly, clearly but not necessarily loudly.7. Use short, simple words and sentences.
2020-11-12 07:49:31 PM byefelicia listening helps build relationships, solve problems, ensure understanding, resolve conflicts, and improve accuracy.
2020-11-12 07:49:35 PM rdonatien face them, segment their speech, take the conversation step by step
2020-11-12 07:50:00 PM byefelicia ready
2020-11-12 07:50:10 PM cchase segmenting is often termed as "Chunking"
2020-11-12 07:50:16 PM lboffeli I think the 7 say it best and it speaks words to always remember speak to them and listen to them just as you want your co-workers or boss to listen
2020-11-12 07:50:38 PM cchase we use this for both communications and for those with Alz/dementia
2020-11-12 07:50:39 PM rdonatien Oh please do not stand over them. make time for the conversation
2020-11-12 07:50:55 PM lboffeli Yes
2020-11-12 07:51:02 PM cchase chunking means - step by step
2020-11-12 07:51:10 PM cchase stand by the counter
2020-11-12 07:51:19 PM cchase open the ccabinet door
2020-11-12 07:51:20 PM yvettemlopez ok
2020-11-12 07:51:25 PM cchase take the cup
2020-11-12 07:51:32 PM cchase put the cup on the counter
2020-11-12 07:51:34 PM michelled like giving them orders
2020-11-12 07:51:43 PM lboffeli simple statements that are easy to follow
2020-11-12 07:51:45 PM cchase steps (not orders)
2020-11-12 07:51:55 PM melveniag some thing like that
2020-11-12 07:51:55 PM cchase how to steps
2020-11-12 07:52:08 PM michelled ok
2020-11-12 07:52:08 PM cchase same goes with conversations
2020-11-12 07:52:14 PM cchase Older people may have trouble following rapid-fire questioning or torrents of information. By speaking more slowly, you will give them time to process what is being asked or said. If you tend to speak quickly, especially if your accent is different from what your patients are used to hearing, try to slow down. This gives them time to take in and better understand what you are saying.
2020-11-12 07:52:15 PM desiraes simpke steps and orders alwaysnwork well
2020-11-12 07:52:32 PM byefelicia thanks for sharing, this one is new to me
2020-11-12 07:52:43 PM desiraes veryn true
2020-11-12 07:52:48 PM lboffeli This is absolutely true
2020-11-12 07:52:53 PM yvettemlopez yes
2020-11-12 07:53:01 PM cchase Some words may have different meanings to older patients than to you or your peers. Words may also have different connotations based on cultural or ethnic background. For example, the word “dementia” may connote insanity, and the word “cancer” may be considered a death sentence.
2020-11-12 07:53:04 PM rdonatien the tone used when segmenting speech is very important, especially for people with auditory dificiencies
2020-11-12 07:53:15 PM desiraes dont overwhelm them can cause behaviors
2020-11-12 07:53:32 PM desiraes think before speaking
2020-11-12 07:53:33 PM melveniag right
2020-11-12 07:53:41 PM yvettemlopez got it
2020-11-12 07:53:41 PM desiraes think of terms the resident would use
2020-11-12 07:53:44 PM cchase that is correct rdonatien
2020-11-12 07:53:51 PM byefelicia AGree
2020-11-12 07:54:00 PM lboffeli agreed
2020-11-12 07:54:11 PM michelled yes
2020-11-12 07:54:16 PM cchase Be aware of the person's health issues. Older adults may have health problems that add difficulty to speaking and understanding. Be sure you consider the person's health before you engage in communication. For example, they may have hearing problems, speech problems, and memory loss. These factors complicate communication.
2020-11-12 07:54:23 PM byefelicia Some seniors may not understand the new computer terminology and lingo
2020-11-12 07:54:44 PM desiraes very true
2020-11-12 07:54:50 PM rpennino very true
2020-11-12 07:55:01 PM yvettemlopez good point
2020-11-12 07:55:04 PM cchase I don't understand the new computer terminology !! or lingo either
2020-11-12 07:55:12 PM desiraes if a resident is hard of hearing use a white board or pieceof paper to communicqte
2020-11-12 07:55:15 PM lboffeli Also if they are having difficulty understanding with simple statements, showing and helping is always helpful
2020-11-12 07:55:18 PM melveniag same here
2020-11-12 07:55:29 PM michelled same
2020-11-12 07:55:31 PM melveniag (Tp)
2020-11-12 07:55:33 PM byefelicia its a good idea to avoid distractions
2020-11-12 07:55:35 PM lboffeli also you can speak slow enough if the resident is able to read lips
2020-11-12 07:55:38 PM byefelicia LOL
2020-11-12 07:55:47 PM cchase Be attentive to the environment in which you are communicating. Be sure to evaluate the environment in which you are communicating, which might have an effect on hearing and speech problems. Is there any disturbing background noise? Are many people speaking in the same room? Is there any intrusive music? Are there any distractions that could affect your communication? Ask the older adult if the environment is comfortable for them. If you sense any disturbance, try to move to a more peaceful and quiet location..
2020-11-12 07:55:48 PM rpennino lol this website has made me realize I'm not as good at computer knowledge as I thought!
2020-11-12 07:56:00 PM rdonatien yes. Adding touch when communicating helps with understanding for seniors w/impairments
2020-11-12 07:56:24 PM desiraes touch is very important in the edlerly
2020-11-12 07:56:42 PM michelled to much stimulation
2020-11-12 07:56:43 PM desiraes the sense of touch can be reassuring
2020-11-12 07:56:46 PM lboffeli Yes cchase! This is very importatnt when a resident may be trying to visit during meals
2020-11-12 07:57:00 PM cchase Speak clearly and articulately, and make eye contact. Older adults may have trouble hearing. It is important to articulate your words and speak clearly. Direct your speech at the individual's face -- not to their side. Do not eat your words: move your mouth and pronounce each word carefully and precisely. When your tongue “dances” inside your mouth when you talk, you articulate more clearly. If your tongue “sleeps” and plays a passive role, you are more likely not articulating as well as you could
2020-11-12 07:57:21 PM desiraes if the room is too loud with too many distractions a resident can become irritable as well
2020-11-12 07:57:28 PM cchase this is more the case now with wearing masks folks
2020-11-12 07:57:49 PM byefelicia Avoid rushing the residents. Time spent discussing concerns will allow you to gather important information and may lead to improved cooperation and their daily activities
2020-11-12 07:57:58 PM lboffeli Yes! We also have added our picture to our nametags to help a resident know who they are communicating with
2020-11-12 07:57:59 PM yvettemlopez move your mouth i like that
2020-11-12 07:58:00 PM desiraes I found with mask wearing you need to round your words alot more
2020-11-12 07:58:08 PM rdonatien wearing a mask has definitely added to communication difficulties
2020-11-12 07:58:17 PM desiraes yes it has
2020-11-12 07:58:22 PM rpennino interesting, I like the dancing in your mouth analogy
2020-11-12 07:58:44 PM lboffeli I agree rpennino I have not heard that one but very true
2020-11-12 07:58:51 PM cchase Adjust your volume appropriately. There is a difference between enunciating and talking loudly. Learn to adapt your voice to the needs of the individual. Evaluate the environment and how it relates to the person’s hearing abilities. Don't shout simply because the listener is older. Treat the individual with respect by articulating and speaking at a comfortable volume that is suitable for both of you
2020-11-12 07:58:57 PM byefelicia you're right, wearing masks makes hearing a bit difficult even if you do not have hearing problems
2020-11-12 07:59:12 PM desiraes my residents tell me they can tell when i smile cuz my eyes smile
2020-11-12 07:59:25 PM cchase oh that's so sweet
2020-11-12 07:59:29 PM desiraes the picture on the name tag is a good idea
2020-11-12 07:59:50 PM cchase Use clear and precise questions and sentences. Do not hesitate to repeat or rephrase your sentences and questions if you sense there is an absence of comprehension. Complicated questions and sentences may confuse older adults who have short-term memory or hearing loss. Clear and precise constructions are easier to comprehend.
2020-11-12 07:59:51 PM rpennino I like that! I want to do that for our newer residents who haven't seen me without a mask
2020-11-12 07:59:57 PM desiraes i feel our residents at my facility will forget what we look like due to wearing masks
2020-11-12 08:00:05 PM byefelicia its best not to use a lot of medical terminology, many lay persons don't even understand it
2020-11-12 08:00:22 PM rdonatien I am having to speak a lot slower and lean in more, which does not help to keep social distancing. what helps is changing the environment, having more time for 1:1s.
2020-11-12 08:00:32 PM cchase my staff always wore name tags with pictures of themselves
2020-11-12 08:00:40 PM lboffeli It works really well! Also we have the desiraes with the smiling in the eyes
2020-11-12 08:00:41 PM michelled we do too
2020-11-12 08:00:53 PM cchase • Use direct questions: "Did you have soup for lunch?" "Did you have salad for lunch?" Instead of: "What did you have for lunch?" The more precise you are in your language, the less difficulty the elderly have in understanding.
2020-11-12 08:01:12 PM desiraes 1:1's are very important you get the time with the resident all on there own
2020-11-12 08:01:31 PM cchase • Reduce the "noise" in your sentences and questions. Limit your sentences and questions to 20 words or less. Don't use slang or filler words and phrases. ("Like," "well," and "you know" are a few examples.) Keep your sentences brief and direct to the point.
2020-11-12 08:01:35 PM rpennino That is a great point, general questions may be too broad and overwhelm them
2020-11-12 08:01:56 PM byefelicia Keep your hands away from your face while talking, as this can hinder lip-reading ability.
2020-11-12 08:02:11 PM yvettemlopez great ideas
2020-11-12 08:02:12 PM cchase lips are not read with masks on
2020-11-12 08:02:17 PM cchase • Avoid the confusion of mixed ideas and questions. Try to define your ideas and questions logically. If you mix ideas, it may be confusing for the older adult to understand. Express one idea and message at a time.
2020-11-12 08:02:18 PM lboffeli Also the "you know" can be hurtful to a resident that has significant memory loss
2020-11-12 08:02:36 PM desiraes agree
2020-11-12 08:02:41 PM cchase never ever say "you know" or I told you
2020-11-12 08:02:48 PM rpennino yes lboffeli!
2020-11-12 08:02:49 PM lboffeli Yes agree
2020-11-12 08:02:49 PM michelled yes
2020-11-12 08:02:55 PM cchase For example, "It is a good idea to call John, your brother. Later, we can call Susan, your sister." A more complicated construction would be: "I think we should call your brother, John, first, and then later we could call your sister, Susan."
2020-11-12 08:02:58 PM desiraes no i find that rude
2020-11-12 08:03:00 PM byefelicia Agree
2020-11-12 08:03:00 PM melveniag right
2020-11-12 08:03:16 PM desiraes agree
2020-11-12 08:03:28 PM lboffeli Agree!
2020-11-12 08:03:33 PM byefelicia make sure you talk without as much background noise as possible
2020-11-12 08:03:35 PM lhalfacre agree
2020-11-12 08:03:40 PM rdonatien left the chat room
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2020-11-12 08:03:41 PM cchase Employ visual aids, if possible. If an older adult has a hearing or memory problem, it is important to be creative. Visual aids help. Show the individual what or who you are talking about. For example, it may be better to say, "Is there any pain in your back (pointing to your back)? Is there any pain in your stomach (pointing to your stomach)?" instead of simply asking "Do you have any pain or discomfort
2020-11-12 08:04:05 PM desiraes very true
2020-11-12 08:04:14 PM desiraes visuale works wonders
2020-11-12 08:04:15 PM michelled picture boards are good
2020-11-12 08:04:26 PM byefelicia how about visual aids, like writing it down or showing a pic
2020-11-12 08:04:27 PM desiraes oh yes good idea
2020-11-12 08:04:35 PM desiraes that works too
2020-11-12 08:04:36 PM yvettemlopez ok
2020-11-12 08:04:39 PM byefelicia wow, I guess I'm just type too slow (LOL)
2020-11-12 08:04:51 PM lboffeli Also another visual is "Do you have pain in your back" and point in the general area of their back but not where the pain would be located
2020-11-12 08:04:51 PM desiraes lol
2020-11-12 08:05:18 PM byefelicia adequate lighting to with eye to eye contact
2020-11-12 08:05:27 PM desiraes agreed
2020-11-12 08:05:56 PM cchase Don’t Be CondescendingMake sure your attempt to “turn up the volume” and slow down your speech pattern doesn’t come across as condescending. Even if your parent suffers from dementia or extreme hearing loss, don’t speak to them as if they are a child. Being patronizing is a surefire way to start an argument.
2020-11-12 08:05:58 PM lhalfacre sometimes if the lighting is to soft they just fall asleep
2020-11-12 08:06:23 PM desiraes yes I ahve noticed that
2020-11-12 08:06:27 PM desiraes with the lighting
2020-11-12 08:06:28 PM cchase yes - lighting is very important
2020-11-12 08:06:39 PM michelled yes I have seen that
2020-11-12 08:06:42 PM lboffeli yes on the lighting
2020-11-12 08:07:02 PM rpennino YES! those are words to live by through all communication. Being patronizing is a surefire way to start a fight
2020-11-12 08:07:04 PM desiraes especially if we watch a movie with lights off i find alot of residents fall asleep :)
2020-11-12 08:07:05 PM yvettemlopez got it
2020-11-12 08:07:16 PM cchase Consider What It Is Like To Be OlderMost seniors experience a series of losses as they get older and strive to stay in control of themselves and their environment. Even if communicating with a loved one is frustrating and complicated, do your best to keep them involved in conversations and decisions they are able to participate in. Be mindful that your efforts to help can make them feel like they’re giving away control of things.
2020-11-12 08:07:36 PM byefelicia always be polite, address residents by proper names
2020-11-12 08:07:47 PM lboffeli We have also had music groups come who want to dim the lighting for effect and it always changes the mood and puts them to sleep
2020-11-12 08:07:49 PM cchase one other reason that they fall asleep is becomes they cannot follow plots
2020-11-12 08:07:50 PM desiraes I have always imagined myself older and talk to my residents how I would want someone to yalk to me
2020-11-12 08:08:01 PM cchase they loose interest
2020-11-12 08:08:06 PM desiraes hmm true
2020-11-12 08:08:10 PM lboffeli yes absolutely they do
2020-11-12 08:08:12 PM rdonatien exactly
2020-11-12 08:08:23 PM cchase Pick Your BattlesMany seniors face growing challenges as they age, including mobility limitations, decreased stamina, loneliness and memory problems. While your goal is to ensure their wellbeing, tackling every single issue at once can be frustrating and embarrassing for an elder. Instead, try to prioritize the issues you want to address and celebrate small victories one at a time.
2020-11-12 08:08:23 PM michelled yes sometimes it happens to me too
2020-11-12 08:08:29 PM rdonatien inclusion in conversations around them is very importiant
2020-11-12 08:08:41 PM cchase :D
2020-11-12 08:08:50 PM byefelicia be considereate of the resident's culture when communicating with them
2020-11-12 08:08:59 PM yvettemlopez happens when im watching movies lol
2020-11-12 08:09:01 PM desiraes agree
2020-11-12 08:09:20 PM cchase Laugh When You CanLaughter really is the best medicine. Humorous moments often arise, even in the most difficult and stressful caregiving situations. Be open to the opportunity to lighten things up and take things a little less seriously. A shared laugh can ease tension and build closeness with your loved ones. However, be sure to laugh with your family members and not at their expense.
2020-11-12 08:09:28 PM lboffeli agreed and this helps them focus on one goal at a time
2020-11-12 08:09:49 PM desiraes I find when I make my residents laugh it makes for a better day for all of us
2020-11-12 08:09:58 PM lhalfacre AGREE
2020-11-12 08:10:04 PM cchase use your body to communicate
2020-11-12 08:10:05 PM lboffeli It also helps lessen the behaviors for some residents
2020-11-12 08:10:12 PM rdonatien that awareness that they cannot follow or are not included in conversation is emotional.
2020-11-12 08:10:13 PM desiraes agree
2020-11-12 08:10:13 PM cchase remember that one
2020-11-12 08:10:24 PM rdonatien No one wants to be ignored
2020-11-12 08:10:25 PM byefelicia always allow extra time for older patients
2020-11-12 08:10:37 PM desiraes absalutly
2020-11-12 08:10:38 PM yvettemlopez check
2020-11-12 08:10:42 PM michelled they are usually laughing at me doing something stupid
2020-11-12 08:10:43 PM lboffeli Will do!
2020-11-12 08:10:45 PM cchase Ask QuestionsHaving trouble thinking of things to talk about? Many of us don’t ask our elders nearly enough about their lives, especially as they get older. There’s no better way to become closer to a person, even if you’ve known them since you were born, than to ask.
2020-11-12 08:11:06 PM rdonatien definitely
2020-11-12 08:11:10 PM desiraes I love hearing about their lives through the years
2020-11-12 08:11:12 PM byefelicia Very true
2020-11-12 08:11:18 PM cchase Structured reminiscence can be a valuable method of engaging with seniors who have varying levels of cognitive impairment as well. Elder care professionals often use different themes, activities and even props, such as past music, movies, photographs and other special memorabilia, to help trigger memories and encourage conversation.
2020-11-12 08:11:24 PM yvettemlopez i love hearing about there lifes
2020-11-12 08:11:28 PM rdonatien a compliment is always a good way to start a conversation
2020-11-12 08:11:31 PM lboffeli We offer an activity called "reminisce and coffe" it is a huge hit. Resident's love to not only visit with you but share stories with others
2020-11-12 08:11:39 PM byefelicia give residents the opportunity to ask questions and express themselves.
2020-11-12 08:11:47 PM cchase Research has shown that reminiscence group therapy can help reduce symptoms of depression and improve self-esteem and life satisfaction
2020-11-12 08:12:11 PM lboffeli Yes and also help new resident's to the home feel at home and make connections/frienships
2020-11-12 08:12:12 PM cchase can you think of conversation starters?
2020-11-12 08:12:13 PM michelled never knew that
2020-11-12 08:12:22 PM desiraes reminiscing is always good as well, especially with coffee, it also makes all the residents get to know each other more
2020-11-12 08:12:25 PM rdonatien their home is full of conversation starters.
2020-11-12 08:12:30 PM yvettemlopez how was it in high school?
2020-11-12 08:12:35 PM michelled What was grcery shopping like
2020-11-12 08:12:39 PM melveniag I totally agree
2020-11-12 08:12:43 PM lboffeli their family/children
2020-11-12 08:12:50 PM byefelicia how's your family? what do you like to do for fun?
2020-11-12 08:12:52 PM desiraes what they did for work
2020-11-12 08:12:58 PM byefelicia what's your favorite movie?
2020-11-12 08:13:00 PM yvettemlopez how many kids do you have? boysd or girls?
2020-11-12 08:13:03 PM rdonatien they way wore their hair in a photograph
2020-11-12 08:13:13 PM desiraes whats your favorite animal
2020-11-12 08:13:27 PM lboffeli what was your favorite job
2020-11-12 08:13:28 PM cchase try to shoot for answers that would be more than one word
2020-11-12 08:13:29 PM michelled how they did their hobbies
2020-11-12 08:13:30 PM byefelicia talk about where they grew up and life experiences
2020-11-12 08:13:32 PM desiraes what is favorite color
2020-11-12 08:13:40 PM desiraes favorite season
2020-11-12 08:13:42 PM rdonatien pick up a brush, ask if they'd like their hair brush
2020-11-12 08:13:49 PM desiraes what makes them so proud
2020-11-12 08:13:51 PM lboffeli favorite food
2020-11-12 08:13:58 PM byefelicia where did you meet your spouse (you can get great dating advice from the elderly)
2020-11-12 08:13:59 PM michelled just ask how the times have changed over the years
2020-11-12 08:14:07 PM cchase here's a few to ponder - ready?
2020-11-12 08:14:12 PM rpennino ready!
2020-11-12 08:14:15 PM yvettemlopez yep
2020-11-12 08:14:18 PM lhalfacre yes
2020-11-12 08:14:27 PM cchase 1. In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you?2. Who is the person who influenced your life the most?
2020-11-12 08:14:28 PM desiraes Some of my residents like their hair french braided so i make their day and french braid their hair
2020-11-12 08:14:39 PM byefelicia lboffeli or their favorite food to cook
2020-11-12 08:14:46 PM cchase 3. Do you have a lost love?4. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?
2020-11-12 08:15:00 PM byefelicia career
2020-11-12 08:15:07 PM cchase 5. Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?6. Is there anything you regret not having asked your parents?
2020-11-12 08:15:12 PM byefelicia ready
2020-11-12 08:15:19 PM lboffeli I have also found the more positive of topics the better. Sad or depressing topics can trigger behaviors
2020-11-12 08:15:45 PM cchase 7. Do you wish anything had been different between us, or would you still like to change something?8. What was the happiest moment of your life?
2020-11-12 08:15:46 PM rdonatien travel questions are often a good starter for my community
2020-11-12 08:16:08 PM cchase that is correct - watch out for war movies or topics
2020-11-12 08:16:22 PM lboffeli With our gentleman residents favorite car is a great topic as well
2020-11-12 08:16:24 PM cchase 9. What are you most proud of?10. How did your experience in the military mold you as a person?
2020-11-12 08:16:42 PM rdonatien great questions
2020-11-12 08:16:55 PM yvettemlopez wont some of these questions make them sad?
2020-11-12 08:16:55 PM byefelicia some subjects can be fine for some and touchy for others, for example some residents may have horrible relatives and don't like to talk about it
2020-11-12 08:16:58 PM cchase oh - yes cars - huge with most guys & gals
2020-11-12 08:17:21 PM lhalfacre I have bad experiences when asked about military service
2020-11-12 08:17:38 PM byefelicia cchase, what if a resident feels as though you're prying? how do you handle that?
2020-11-12 08:17:52 PM melveniag What typeof work did you do? howdid youbecome invoived ? how many years did you do that tpye of work ? Well I thank you for sharingthat with me I found it very interesting.
2020-11-12 08:17:52 PM rpennino I have a lot of residents that are estranged from their families, and have to avoid those conversatiosn in groups with other residents
2020-11-12 08:17:55 PM cchase I find that not asking questions leaves them feeling that you don't care to learn more about them - that they do not matter
2020-11-12 08:18:07 PM lboffeli I worked in a veterans home for 2 years and military topic was one that had to be resident to resdient basis
2020-11-12 08:18:17 PM cchase depends on how you approach the question
2020-11-12 08:18:22 PM lboffeli Absolutely agree cchase!
2020-11-12 08:18:35 PM michelled that is true
2020-11-12 08:18:43 PM byefelicia did anyone see the movie Grumpy Old Men?
2020-11-12 08:18:43 PM yvettemlopez ok
2020-11-12 08:18:51 PM rdonatien I like reference starters like if you were a "Bird", a flower..., what would you be?
2020-11-12 08:19:02 PM cchase sometimes I will say - I love apple pie - wonder if there are other pies I might like - what do you think?
2020-11-12 08:19:28 PM cchase I love that rdonatien - what is you name anyways?
2020-11-12 08:19:39 PM lboffeli Yes this also brings on a good future activity to bake with the resident/residents'
2020-11-12 08:19:45 PM rpennino i love taht!
2020-11-12 08:19:52 PM yvettemlopez ok
2020-11-12 08:20:05 PM cchase yup - building on the theme is super

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